A Sprinkle of Confidence Goes a L O N G Way

Admittedly I’m a proud supporter of America’s Next Top Model. And though there are several things I’d love to change about the show – the fact still remains: these girls are getting an opportunity they may have never had before. And for that very reason, I tune in on a weekly basis.

Well for those of you that secretly (or openly) watch along with me, you saw that our Middle Eastern beauty, Anchal, was given the ax. Anchal is definitely the most beautiful contestant I’ve ever seen on the show, but unfortunately for her she lacked that little something. She lacked belief in herself, and because of it, when she looks in the mirror; she doesn’t see the same thing that we see. Anchal lacks confidence, and I’ve never seen a better example. Here you have it: the epitome of perfect bone structure, natural sex appeal, and a wonderful body – but the person herself neither believes nor sees any of this. How can this be? I’m sure more than anything it has to do with years of being told otherwise. Being told in some form or fashion that you’re not good enough. Perhaps even being called ugly or unattractive. This was Anchal’s situation, and she’s currently fighting an uphill battle in a effort to obtain any shred of confidence that she can.

And we’ve all seen it – a sprinkle of confidence goes a long way. The super-unattractive guy with the modelesque female and she can’t be with him for his money because he’s broke. She’s with him because unlike most of his counterparts he had the guts to step to her. For whatever reason he believed himself to be good enough for her, and she bought it – hook, line, and sinker. We’ve seen it a million times, and it’s true: no one will believe in you until you believe in yourself.

Anchal couldn’t *sell* model, though she’s a beautiful girl she just couldn’t sell it. But she’s not alone, because I think many of us fall short in this arena in some form or fashion. Can we sell ourselves in the job interview? Can we make this hiring manager believe that *we* believe we’re the best candidate for the position? Can you sell yourself to the Casting Director? To the cute guy that just moved in your building? To whoever for whatever… can you do it? Bottom line is do YOU think you’re good enough??? Someone once told me to “fake it ‘til you make it.” And I sware it’s some of the best advice I was ever given (as generic as it may be), and that’s what I plan to do – keep a healthy dose of confidence with me at all times.

Be easy,
~jaz